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Mentoring FAQ’s

You can find our list of mentors here.

Our advice is to approach one mentor at a time and to finish the interaction with that mentor before contacting someone else.

If the mentor is able to offer mentoring, they will be in touch with you. If for any reason they are unable to offer mentoring at that time, approach another mentor. There may be many reasons why a mentor is unable to offer mentoring at the time you ask.

Confidentiality is something which you need to discuss with any potential mentor. Most mentors would talk about this in the first part of the relationship, and if it is not mentioned by them, it is important that you bring this up. It is reasonable to expect that usual confidentiality rules apply within the law. Mentors and coaches would not be asked to share any information about their mentoring with The Mentor Network

Our mentors do not provide any specific information about the mentoring they offer, either through this site or otherwise, to The Mentor Network (except for references). 

It is up to you as a mentee to negotiate the mentoring relationship with the mentor at any point you wish. Read through the mentoring contract carefully before you sign it, especially regarding any payment. Remember that the mentoring or coaching contract is between you and the mentor or coach. The Mentor Network does not get involved in this.

From time to time we all encounter disagreements or difficulties in relationships in our lives.
This can happen in mentoring and coaching as well. Mentors and coaches who are trained,
are usually able to navigate difficulties in relationships, and help reach an amicable

The Mentor Network does not enter into specific disputes with mentors/coaches and
mentees/coaches. The Mentor Network provides a service of information. The
mentee/coachee should check the relevant details of a mentor or coach for themselves and
be satisfied that the mentor or coach is fit to practise and has the relevant proofs of any
qualifications requested prior to the commencement of any work.

Where The Mentor Network has been contacted with a complaint or difficulty, there will be
an expectation that the mentor or coach be in contact with the mentee or coachee, to try
and resolve the difficulty. If there is a more serious difficulty, involving legal issues, this is
outside of the remit of The Mentor Network. It is advised that the statutory services are

If The Mentor Network is contacted following a dispute that has not been able to be solved,
the process of Complaints procedure will be followed, and a decision will be made about the
mentor or coach profile in relation to the adherence to the Values and Ethical Framework of
The Mentor Network.

The mentors and coaches opt into the areas they consider they are skilled at providing mentoring and coaching for. Some people have done many different roles and are able to effectively mentor or coach people from any category. Ask the individual mentors or coaches when the last time they were a leader, or led a youth group if you want more information and it is not on their profile.

Sometimes church denominations offer their own mentoring and coaching systems. Check with your local church. If you have checked locally and have not found anyone, you can also email us at

Some of the mentors and coaches have official training and are accredited professionally through various external organisations, while some mentors are trained informally.

If someone has less training this does not necessarily mean they will not be as good at mentoring.

Many of our mentors keep themselves updated through Regional Mentoring Support Groups and continual training, as well as having a supervisory relationship. This is not the case for everyone though, and if you decide to approach a mentor who is not accredited there may be certain questions you want to consider:

  1. How do you keep updated in your mentoring (e.g. do you attend courses)?
  2. Do you have someone who regularly supervises you? Is the supervisor trained?
  3. Do you have contact with other mentors? How regularly do you do this?
  4. Do you have indemnity insurance to cover your mentoring work?
  5. Is there a church to whom are you accountable to in your mentoring?

You may have some of your own questions as well.

Some of our mentors consider it important to have gained an academic or accreditation qualification. This is reflected in the biographies you will see. If someone is accredited or academically qualified and has a supervisor, charging for their mentoring may be a way for them to balance their own costs. If in doubt, ask.

Mentors have indicated on their biography/profile whether they are willing to work with some form of digital mentoring. If unsure, discuss this with your mentor. Some mentors prefer to work totally face-to-face; some mentors like a combination of Skype and face-to-face; others are happy to Skype for all sessions.

The Mentor Network website is a provider of information. The mentors and coaches who advertise on the site may have been through different aspects of training with The Mentor Network and may have chosen to submit voluntary references from their current church and a mentee. They may also hold current DBS (Disclosure and Barring Service) certificates. These will be indicated on their biography/profile information.

It remains the responsibility of you as the potential mentee, to satisfy yourself that you are happy to enter into a mentoring or coaching relationship with an individual. The Mentor Network does not accept any liability for the credibility of the individual mentors.

However, there is a training programme and a referencing system. If a mentor has chosen to submit these, it is indicated on the profiles. If there is a problem with a mentor and you wish to report this, please contact us here. We would expect any individual to attempt to resolve any issues with the individual concerned prior to contacting the administrator at The Mentor Network. See the full complaints procedure here.

Yes, at registration mentors agree to the Values and Ethical Framework of The Mentor Network. You can read the Values and Ethical Framework here.

You can expect the mentor to give you information about their mentoring practice and to agree any fees before you begin mentoring. You need to take responsibility for this; do not begin mentoring if you are unclear about fees.

The mentor is expected to oversee the mentoring process, and to advise you if they consider the mentoring relationship cannot be maintained for whatever reason.

As a mentee, it is expected that you will jointly work and be responsible for your own development and decisions at all times. Any advice that is offered is merely that: you are in charge of your own decisions.

Preparation for your mentoring sessions will yield greater results and will benefit your progress. If you are not prepared to engage with the challenges and outcomes of your mentoring in between sessions, you might then question your commitment to the mentoring process at that time.

Sometimes there are seasons in life when mentoring is more difficult. Be honest about this with your mentor. Mentoring could be postponed in an agreed way – in some situations this might be better than trying to keep the commitment and difficult times.

If you have any further questions or concerns you please contact us.

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